Worry about how postpartum depression my wife flowers instead

I always wanted children, but his wife refused to good article.She is a middle school teacher, fear of birth a child, the ugly, old.When she told me, eyebrows knotted together, a pretty face is faintly visible concern, let me heartache.

Most of my friends or classmates have kids, a family of three enjoyable weekend, and that atmosphere of my heart.Man blowing my pillow every night to the good wind, and said the benefits have children, said the risk of older mothers.She was unmoved, its own way.

One day, good paper feel a little sick, I took her to hospital.The doctor said pregnant.I'm ecstatic, dancing to kiss her.I secretly look at her, she did not look happy, but added to the hospital regularly, writing diaries during pregnancy.

Due date a few days, Jia Wen's stomach is still no movement, anxious restlessness, Tingzheduzi everywhere.I comforted her, she no good air and said: You know what! I was speechless.

I can not always keep at home, a large share of the company I deal with things such as, but not in the mood to do anything to call home every two hours for information.One day, I was meeting of the company, Jia Wen called for the stomach pain.I immediately lay down their hands to do, rush home to take her to the hospital by car.

Because the fetal head large, natural delivery I'm afraid some of the difficulties, the doctor recommended cesarean section, and asked me: If adults and children can only guarantee one, adult or child protection? I tremble to say: everything.In operation, when a single sign, continue to shake my hand, this sum will go to the next of kin of the security relationship.The process of waiting outside the operating room is extremely long and painful, a moment I even want to escape from the hospital.

Operating room doors finally opened, the nurse said, gave birth to a daughter.I am very happy.Jia Wen hair wet, his face pale, eyes closed, lips pale and trembling.I grabbed her hand and gently stroked.Best Man woke up, I told her had a daughter, very beautiful.She smiled, relieved.

Discharged that day, my mother came from the northeast according to Gu Jiawen specifically.The old lady thought the opening, equal treatment of men and granddaughter Sun, so I moved.However, the text, then less and less good, can not see his face confront.Mother secretly asked me: I did not taste her food substandard? I hastened to comfort her: No ah, nothing.

Situation is not what I thought better.Three weeks after delivery, good text become like another person, frequently lost his temper, threw things around, listen to reason.Indifferent to the child, the child wet, hungry, cry randomly, like did not hear her - like, not look.Mothers do not see the past, said she was two, she said: do not want to stay here to go back to Northeast! Mother angry tears.I Renzhao Qi, she would like to say a few words.Mother not to fear that she fell ill on the yard.

Day, good to see the text hidden foot of the bed crying, I took her hand and said: good article, do not cry okay? Have anything to tell me.A good paper to get rid of my hand and said: stay to the side, do not bother me.I ask the mother, she scared quickly said: I did not mess with her.

My heart like a stripped down, sat on the sofa, wronged, oppressed.As soon as I heard the house rattle, I quickly ran back to the house, saw his mother standing still stiff, his eyes flooded with tears.It turned out that the mother's chicken soup boil for greasy, fell to the ground is good article.I really want to play with the unreasonable one woman.Mother dragged me and begged me not to quarrel.Looked at by the aggrieved mother, my heart is gradually softened down.

daughter, the mother back to the northeast.My mother was gone, all the responsibility to take care of her daughter who falls good article.I am a little worried during the day when taking the time to go back home to determine the mother and child to work fine again.I'm exhausted, always on the road, depressed, long hair, no time management, beard, like weeds, sad, little girl the company joked with me: how a daughter to become mature?

Noon that day, I ran home during lunch time.The door, stay away: the text is not good, leaving the child crying.I turned to look good article.Down the stairs, I saw her standing under a tree wearing pajamas, fluffy hair, working with - a little boy talking.I've never looked at this distance, she actually mind some acid.This moment, I think we experienced a lot of wind and rain like the elderly, in front of a slim, do not see the way the text is getting good weight, our marriage mess cake.Three months of pregnancy to the present, I almost become a monk.Sometimes, good to see the text lines that are convex I could not suppress his desire to embrace in my arms, but was she pushes.Quick dumb child, she would not hand hold it.Jia Wen past is not the case, she likes other people's children, holding would not let go.Her own pregnancy, hope, fervently hope.Fickle woman, really become so fast you

Flowers and no one care, have died; the table, to the thick dust on the desk to write on.My life _ as a sweater, split and not split is the same.

Me no one can replace boredom.Before that cheerful, considerate girl disappeared, replaced by a non-stress meter, impatience, irritability, exports hurt, and even some nervous tendencies woman.

I started waking up at night and never sleep, the number of sheep with open eyes empty, a few to a thousand, thousand, but to no avail.The pressure of work and daily life a mess, put me firmly surrounded.I breathe, almost can not support, does not know when this day ends.

Comments: Counselor Zhang Mai

Paper hero's wife and postnatal mental state, there was greater change, from her performance, should be the post-natal depression.

Postpartum depression is postpartum 3 months or 6 months, the most common complication, about 10% to 70% rate.It's mainly for anxiety, depression, fatigue, sleep disturbance, loss of appetite, memory loss, inability to concentrate, irritability.

Women from pregnancy to childbirth, hormonal changes significantly, the occurrence of postpartum depression may be related to estrogen, progesterone change.In addition, some women can not face the new life brought about by changes in family structure, lack of recognition of the role of the mother, or difficult to bear alone the responsibility of taking care of babies, the psychological burden too heavy, so easy to get angry.

Postpartum depression is not an incurable disease, if treated in time, the effect is good.First of all, as a husband, the wife should pay more attention to the changes, more understanding, more caring, you can ask a family member or nanny to help deal with trivial things, to increase and his wife, children, time together.

Second, the distribution of good care of his wife and children time to avoid the other.Sensitive to a woman born, after going through major changes in body care for men are particularly sensitive.Therefore, the exchange with his wife may be more important than others, not because of the arrival of new life and ignore her.

If necessary, mothers can under the guidance of a doctor, taking some antidepressants.Wife of the hero for the text of the actual situation and suggested she take part in some child care and physical training courses, establish the concept of motherhood, prenatal removal of the body concerns.

Prevention is better than cure.If done enough in the pre measure, then the chances of postpartum depression occur less.Specific measures include:

① prenatal education, including knowledge of postpartum depression, and maternal role transition difficulties may be encountered;
② increased stress response and treatment approaches: relaxation training, cognitive restructuring and self-confidence training is a commonly used method;
③ antenatal women should receive emotional support of treatment and know how to prepare for and adapt to the recommendations of neonatal and prenatal psychological guidance, can be reduced from 6 to 8 weeks postpartum tension, anxiety, depression emotions.

The arrival of children changes the lives of his wife, so her husband can not adapt, giving him a heavy psychological burden.Husband should be understanding the physical changes, changes in family structure to the impact of his wife.His wife had to resist a baby, pregnancy is unexpected.In children the embarrassment of unexpected circumstances, how to balance work, take care of his wife and daughter relationship is especially important.From the two homes to a family of three, wife of temporary departure from the normal life, so the burden of maintaining the integrity of the family only by the husband to choose, he need more patience to regulate their emotions, if necessary, talk or seek help from others.

(Editor: Zhou Yi Hua)