Love will ask five questions

China psychological Introduction: a relationship between school teachers for five gold codes of practice to assess the reasons for the success of long-term marriage.Committed a serious mistake when you have to choose a life partner, absolutely no one has to do the wrong choice, however, when the divorce rate is 50 percENT, you know there are many people in the choice of his (or her) partner.The five questions we must ask yourself if you really wanted to find and have a life partner.

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a problem: we have a common goal in life?

If you have been married for 20 or 30 years, it is a very long time.You plan how to live this time? To dinner and running? You have to share a deeper more meaningful things, and his (her), you must have a common goal in life.

two of these cases occur in a marriage: you can grow together, or their own growth.50 per cENT of their own growth, to make the marriage success you have to know life on the bottom line, what you want and then marry (or marry) a people like you.

: and his (her) to share feelings and ideas, feel safe?

this problem and the quality of your relationship,"feel safe" means that you can openly and communication, good communication is based on trust.Be honest with yourself! Sure the object you want to get married is that you feel emotionally safe.

problem: he (she) is worthy of admiration, a very special person?

the meaning of this problem is: he (she) is a noble and sensitive person? you how to test him (her)?

here: he (she) is generally the basis for personal growth? whether he (she) seriously improve their own?"good" under a definition that is an often strive and people who do the right thing.So ask your other half: he (she) how to use his (her) time?

basically the world has two kinds of people: one is dedicated to personal growth, and the other is seeking a comfortable life.The kind of comfortable life as a goal, and leave their personal enjoymENT in the first place.He (she) walked down the red carpet before, you need to know this.

problem four: he (she) how to deal with other people?

promote relationships of the most important is the ability to give.The so-called give is to make others happy ability.To see whether this person is really like to give? What is the situation unrelated? Example: waiter, a bus driver.How to deal with parENTs and siblings? He knows how to be grateful? If he is that to him all the things people do not know how to appreciate, do not expect that he will be grateful to you.He will gossip and speak ill of others? Gossip will not know how to love, you can determine if he is bad for others, you will not be good.

of Five: 'When we get married, whether you want to change this person?

there are too many to commit this error, it is hoped that in marriage"change" his spouse.You may wish someone change after marriage...may be getting worse, if you can not fully accept him (her) what it is today, you are not yet ready to get married.In conclusion, the stage of love to point the mind less a snack.

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