Fielded questions about the child's embarrassing questions

Bully mom dad

To send their daughters back to kindergarten, Mrs Rose could not wait to call friends thing almost happened last night she had gas to go back: she and her husband to devote to sex after the accident to find that 4-year-old daughter standing their room, stare at the father and mother, Mrs Rose daughter in the end do not know how long stay in the room, see? But the daughter seems to be frightened, back in his bedroom sheepishly asked: Why should my father bully her mother?

Many parents have encountered such an awkward scene, except that some children enter the room at the moment to respond quickly, in time to cover; some of which are immersed, so that children see a major chapter or picture, there is no save room.

Imagine the same thing to happen to them if what will happen, how to deal with? Is the order in panic screaming children out, and then when something did not happen; or sometime sat to the children about sex; still see it as a message to the children about love, intimacy and privacy of the concept of absolute opportunity?

Let a rainy day is not a program.Panic, let the children leave and the subsequent silence, imagination may make him so.We should follow the child's age, build on their point of view the content they want, the adult suspect and the child's real exchange of ideas.Even with a picture of 4-year-old and 7-year-old child to explain the focus should be different.

Four-year-old child would intuitively think that my father and mother were fighting, bullying mother or father; perhaps, he will place this in your fiction out of a variety of terrible things in the bedroom.This requires you to correct his ideas, give the child the expression of love between a parent concept.You can say: In fact, parents in the embrace, that we love each other, just like we love you, hold you.We hope that this time alone, not bothered by anyone, including the baby you.So, next time we closed the bedroom door, you do not bold to break into.Sure to knock on the door, so we agreed to come again.Let the children learn to respect other people's privacy at home is no exception.

Six-year-old child to say, such as marriage, kissing a kind word, but do not really understand what it means.When they see their parents having sex, maybe we could dimly feel that parents are to be friendly, just like on TV, like the people that close, but do not understand why parents do not wear clothes.If the child has such a question, he hoped to get honest answers.We'd better child: Sometimes, my father and mother lay bare the body to feel comfortable with.Of course, only the big people love each other can do so, the child can not imitate, because a child's body has not fully developed, and do similar things will be sick.Let him understand that this is adult behavior.

Answer questions such children, parents do not need to blush, shy in identifying the children want to know which part, the more honest with enveloped in it opened that the layer of mystery.However, you do not need to tell every detail of the child which, under normal circumstances, the answer brief can meet their curiosity.8-year-old former children rarely understand the process of sex, so parents and children about the nature of any problems, should try to convey the image of love, affection, feelings, and a variety of values, there is the attitude of openness and calm, planted in the hearts of the young is good, but the seeds of sexual self-control needed to help children to form healthy attitudes to sex.The child is bigger, parents can encourage them to check their answers to certain questions, such as going to the library or through the network.

Have a bye name is forever

6-year-old father said quietly of her best friend.Every night before going to bed and dad a hug has become a practice.Yin Xue sometimes joke that my mother, father and daughter which she should be jealous of it! Quietly hope that holiday to Hainan Tourism, my father agreed, and booked a travel agency.Unfortunately, just two days before departure, my father suddenly had an accident, who has not gone to the hospital.Yin'd rather die, I do not know how to deal with the snow, she felt the most difficult is how to tell her father left them forever.

Believe that every parent families are not willing to let children experience the pain of death, but life in the black with the unexpected inevitably to death so that we can not avoid, and perhaps this is what we can in front of children reasons for avoiding the topic of death.They should not be excluded from the pain of family life, the just can not put them out of the joy of family life outside the same.Children need to express their true feelings, loss of loved ones were for the right to weep, because only the face of death, to experience sorrow, will it be possible for children to slowly understand the true meaning of death, based on the care of their lives.

Quietly to what seems to presentiment, she preoccupied: Dad has not been home for two days, he did not say let's go to Hainan with it?

Gradually calm down, Mom quietly decided to use simple language to let his daughter know the truth: my father can no longer go out with us.He went up to another world.

Where the world?

Far, far away place, each of us will eventually go, but some people go too early, and some people to get later.

That, my mother and I would go to dad?

Will, but over many years.Now we must live good lives and do something we do.

Is not so that we die before going to a place far, far away?

Yes.

Say father died?

Yes.

Ranging us why he died? He said Well, we went to Hainan, and how to speak does not count?

Some things are impossible to control our own, my father will not leave us quietly that he loved, but also love my mother.

I want Daddy.

Mother would also like father, mother and father is not hard to believe that we together.

Father will not see us, right?

Not, but we can remember him well.Perhaps, in the dream, we met with the father.

With the child about death, try not to use euphemistic words, to avoid such a disaster, their misunderstanding of life, let them know that people are reluctant to place any, but do nothing to do.If the child is very sad, you may wish to encourage her to cry out, or to say it was the feeling; while giving her a loving hug and concerns of the eyes, the child will be safe.