Platonic love feast of a middle-aged courtship

one, loneliness and loss to middle-aged man lies in the virtual space

you fall in love yet? Or that you had online dating experience? You answer the question so conceal, there may be some embarrassed, even if you have had the history of online dating, or are deeply in love with a screen after he or she may shut up your language, you do not want people to come into your emotional world, even a hint of the accidENT, you will be more cautious, because you are too proud, and very care about the outside of your evaluation, you use a decade or two or even three years of good times to win the current impressive performance, you not want to be emotional and fetters, but do not want to leave too much after the middle-aged regret, but in fact you are in love with a line that he or she, though you never met, even if only one encounter, but you look forward to a dream lover to come.

If you are a successful career as a middle-aged men, the outside, you are a happy Family a successful career, a good wife and son at home, the unit on the popular quite good, you have substantial income, a car real estate, you calm, honest man, not the emotional from the utmost limit, you always face colored disdain the temptation to fame after their predecessors were you, envy you have cast the eyes, but since you met her online, so your dream of a girl, a beautiful dignified and gENTle enough for mature women, a kind-hearted, compassionate confidante, she was all for your sake, she You understand that you can read, you better open your heart to eliminate the hearts of solitude and loneliness, she can have her inner emotions, tangled emotional lives of all the secrets of the emotional experience of those unknown, completely entrusted to you, you heart, and her heart have in your wonderful feeling inside, long-lost first love feeling wells up, warm and happy, sweet and romantic, she is like a leaf boat, designated the sea to your heart, so love the water pan from ripples.

you at this momENT, as if moved to her true feelings, your day is filled with passion and joy, happiness and well-being spread, you work together more enthusiasm, since you seem to have made endless effort, once you are quiet, it became funny.Information day without her, your heart just as intolerable as cat-scratch, your more than one of her dreams, and your phone greeting words have become more like Poetry, you inadvertently, she has quietly entered the your life, crowding out of your emotional world.

really, at this time you have online dating, you do not evade, not to Zuisi not recognize the drinks, you can not hide the subtle appearance of your heart anxiety and uncertainty.

If you are a bit close to Buhuozhinian or has ENTered the ranks of middle-aged women in the workplace, you can work independently, you discouraged by the leadership, you in reality in self-esteem and self-reliance, you love life, your wife, mother, but because of the limitations of character, conservative and contacts, and always lived a simple life, for those dull life, you seem to some frustration, you busy all day, as a mother, daughter, daughter, wife's role, but deep down you always feel something is missing.

middle age, you start to get anxious and uneasy, in the loss of time, watching his face gradually aging, sagging skin tight, and you envy romantic and beautiful young girl, and you sighed untimely, easily the most beautiful woman spENT time, you seem to rush to marry a man, not savor the taste of love, and became a good wife has been good mother role.

in loss of time, you can not hide the heart of panic and anxiety, a naturally beauty of you, always haircut when young, middle age began to focus on modification of themselves, always want to to slow the pace of aging more slowly, you sigh youth short years ran your relENTless.

attributed to Family life when the plain, and youth no longer have, a deep sense of loss and anxiety would be intrusive for you, and suddenly one day, met on the Internet a he, a lonely heart can give you more opportunities to talk to him, a man of your grief, his uninhibited atmosphere, he handsome, he was mature and stable, while talking about the lack his humor, his intellect and dedication to pursuing you, he makes you heart, leaving you like.

in the dead of night, you log in"green" and wait for the arrival of the agreed time, waiting for the picture that makes you heart change from dark to light, and suddenly his head in the blink , a greeting my dear, let your heart rate, passion flows in the veins, from a night full of love, with you through one after another lonely night.

you have the same hobbies, have the same emotional experience, have a similar Family background, your compatibility, you and he has become a true friend, no words do not said a friend, since you fell in love with the network, you fell in love with him that after the screen, he can make you worrying about, he can make you sleepless night, he can make you restless, he also gives you endless thoughts.

two middle-aged online dating, in the end the love what?

online dating is not a simple conceal words, young people, online dating is not the patENT, but the middle-aged and young online dating online dating is essentially different.

another middle-aged persons can come together online and the rare, the incidence of middle-aged one-night stand online dating is slim, and young people not to do this a long time only having food has significantly differENT, they expect more with a long-term emotional, even love the crazy moment when, even intolerable similar love to come together, they will not split after a night, more middle-aged online dating the pursuit of a virtual plot, far apart each other worried about, thinking, blessing, feel a touch, a warmth, a good, make life more colorful up, they have embraced the Internet and mobile phones, communication tools, the mind emotional interaction, which is a major feature of middle-aged online dating.

middle-aged, but online dating is a Platonic love feast.Online dating in middle-aged, most of them have a Family, culture, cultivation, there are some who are highly qualified, according to the survey found that online dating in middle-aged, the majority of intellectuals, teachers, doctors, governmENT officers and even university professors have no shortage of them.

online and those in middle age, they never want to lose their partner at night home stay, as well as their own childhood, are also considered Meiqingmuxiu wife, in reality, they observe a has a code of ethics, they bear the pressure of desire and beauty temptations, they will not easily attempt to emotional affair, but in the virtual network, they became"indulgence," it is because the virtual, they were less worried and fear, because the virtual, they are stripped of responsibility and honor on the pressure.

middle-aged people fall in love, they are more 恋着 heart of God and each other, they are true practitioners of Platonic love, between middle-aged men and women Cyber ​​Love, love God and each other's hearts, not just the meat and the body, the spirit of love, the good feelings are much higher than the body caused by the combination of pleasure, middle-aged online dating, also a Park La love feast.

three middle-aged online dating can not be simply regarded as extramarital affairs, online dating and extra-marital affairs is essENTially different.

whether online dating as an expression of extra-marital affairs, that is equivalENT to the extra-marital online dating it? This has been a matter of preference, but in my opinion, middle-aged online dating can not be simply regarded as extramarital affairs, online dating and extra-marital affairs is essentially different.

Friends"romance", and also"High Fidelity" is not even light, almost to the edge of a nervous breakdown several times to the author message board or mail in the information, looking forward to for help, taught him how to do not want to her? !

emotional encounters such doubts, I always do nothing strategy, I do not know how to convince them complain when faced with these crazy men tell me so frankly with the great mENTal pain and suffering is so loved, I always say, I'm sorry I do not really have a good sure way to let you love him or her, out of the"romance" after the pain, you need to come up with your own confidence and courage, love also requires wisdom, not for love, say love, love has to give up give up do not say things that others can not be.

When a person is immersed in the online dating among any of the preaching is useless and a big lesson, the only sure way is to give an understanding of his or her , a tolerance, not criticism and accusations, but may evENTually achieve an unexpected effect.

ruthless man of non-grass practice makes perfect, though online dating is only in the virtual world of a release of emotions and love, but online dating is an objective existence in the network Fiat produced in mutual love and happiness, is the true expression of love experience virtual real people behind, but not without thinking of heartless thing.

when he or she trusts you, talk to your friendly feeling the pain this time, all the holy truths and even harsh criticism to the other side often has a great shame, and even increase the psychological pressure and burden in vain, and even lost faith in you to produce hostility, make things go in the opposite, is not conducive to"romance" are out of the abyss of suffering.

often more pain than joy and happiness than mENTal torture, after all, online dating were far apart, can not easily get together, the missing inthe and because most are middle-aged online dating who cherish life and the immediate Family, in reality, can be considered sub-groups, they do not have more opportunities for emotional release, the natural one in the hands of the network lover, and can not span virtual reality and The invisible ravines, only in the spiritual world of pain struggle.

a large extENT, in reality, those who engage in extra-marital online dating, they do not have the energy to you and me I'm online you, so we should not simply the net go to the extra-marital homosexual contingent.

If the online dating and the affair is seen as a disease, then the affair should be malignant, it is possible to cause the death of an incurable disease organism, but the vast Most online and they are all benign, can be healed - or that died and more.

themselves into online and people are always trying to transcend the middle-aged online dating emotional than rational, and realistic in this affair is differENT, in reality, The affair led to Family breakdown are the result of the marriage has unfortunately led to the ruin of a short, easy to complicate the issue and extra-marital affairs, more extreme, and online dating Otherwise, middle-aged courtship matter whether the wine is brewed thoughts of love The bitter worth mentioning, eventually drank alone.Middle-aged online dating, once broke up, they will each remove, cut off all communication channels, but this choice is often very painful, they will not easily find someone to talk to the pain, they need to defend the dignity of the final.Therefore, both online and eventually lead to unhappiness is ended, each with a sentimental heart and had to leave the majority.

Fourth, why the middle-aged women more likely than men online dating?

What is online dating? Naturally between men and women talk to each other like the Internet and the feeling of love, not men online dating online dating women who were not there, nor any known online dating, and can only be called unrequited love, but for a normal adult men and women , developed to a certain degree of unrequited love into a morbid affair, but under normal psychological, once the conditions are ripe, online dating can still occur.

Since online dating is the thing in half of men and women, why middle-aged women more likely than men online dating?

in fact more likely than men to middle-aged women online and one of the biggest reason is the men and women in the treatmENT of emotional differences, and that is, women pay more attention to the spiritual sustenance and emotional feelings, and men are valued more in reality they have.

compared to middle-aged men in the community are often more dominant than women, meaning that a successful career, middle-aged men, they may not have too much time falling in love on the network, even to find a kind of emotional sustenance, it will not look forward to a virtual world of love, the choice of too many men's extramarital emotional reality.
and women differENT, the reality of middle-aged women, lost their own advantages and conditions, together with more emphasis on reputation and influence of women, they will not easily find an affair in real people, they emotionally rich imagination and emotion to the more romantic to give, they expect a man into their intimate emotional world, and to have this feeling as their own, which became the sacred inviolability of them, they are often feelings are hurt easily.

knowledge for many women, they have also had many dreams, but many of their dreams shattered along with the passage of time, and over the years, they are to the Family , for children and career, often paying a lot, some even without her husband's understanding, what is more, the husband can whoring out debauchery, his wife stay at home and be a law-abiding, good wife, good mother, caring for a good daughter-in-laws, their increasingly narrow circle of contacts, but in reality men in the family can not enjoy the same rights, they will find a worthy difficulties she wENT to talk to the man inside, and find a real man certain risks, we can only place their hopes in the virtual online world, the network at this time gave them a false feeling of compensation is very beautiful.
touched for the very middle-aged women are more likely fall in love, the truth can not be simply interpreted as love, but an emotional sustenance and spiritual comfort, and male courtship that is differENT from those Although online dating in middle-aged men and women are pursued by the spirit of love is the same, but the man is still too much concerned about each other's appearance brought a beautiful sense of beauty and freshness, so we found a plump, face Johnson is good, the rich beauty of Neixiu middle-aged women, were more likely to be men, obsessed with online dating.

Therefore, online and in the search for the real men prefer not feel a passion on the interaction, while the courtship of women talk more emphasis on emotional , spiritual comfort, they need a big heart who loved her man to listen to her tell some of the happiness and unhappiness, the man to give them more of a sense of security and reliability, they developed a feeling a friend beautiful scenery, not their expected once the ideal and reality gap created after, they will be extremely sad, and even the love of a man who showed great disappointmENT, in their minds the image of all the beautiful moments collapsed.

author as moderator in a forum, when a survey was conducted in middle-aged Internet users aged 35 -55 years of age, the more recognition Liucheng Online there is romance, nearly half had more or less complex courtship, of course, in other populations, there are many do not recognize the drinks have Zuisi Zhu Er, in the online dating is so advanced today, online dating has become a not around open complex.

online and real middle-aged, there is no need for equivocation, the only way to learn how to deal with online dating, how to get people addicted to online and out in the confusion.

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this blog to write about-go for several days, and several times thinking, evENTually became this way after several changes, although the middle-aged online dating conditions of the causes and occurrence of writing there were immature, and even some very naive view, the text is also not accessible, but it took a lot of references, where appropriate, written after the.

blog posts about online dating, I have seen some, give me the general feeling is that the article more moral standing and that large reason, while standing on the analysis of online dating's point of view the problem less to the reason no doubt want to play yourself into a pure and holy educators, condescending educating people, often people can not accept, but also psychology taboo.

log in before I write this, I thought, if I also used a mENTal Health persons didactic, enlightened approach to writing and naturally there will be excluded from online and outside the middle-aged, but the point of view of those who stand in online dating problems and solve the problem, the fix will have a online dating too, but I do not like to write, because I have Leave a fool to fall in love in middle-aged man unable to extricate themselves satisfied with a count of persuasion, he was a favorite for the women lost their minds, in a time of imminent harm to be hurt, I told him, since love her , you need to cherish her all as pure love is something valuable, or they would be seen as the villain, love is buried in the hearts of the good, true man needs the courage to give a love, for love, I want you to do a bit brave, but I hope you make a wise man, we need to do an emotional benevolence, love is a beautiful thing, so emotional torment he is stupid.

advised him I do not know what the outcome, but I found since then he suddenly calmed down, he put the love, regardless of right and wrong moral or commendable online dating, has become a beautiful song after another verse, into a deep heart's good wishes, this time I am Xingxi.Pursuit of a better man Yes, romance is not guilty of heaven, the only need to reason, love is wisdom, women as well.

text/Quan Yun