Mental others how to master

First, understand people and human nature

improve interpersonal communication and interpersonal skills to master the first step of success is: the right understanding of the human person and nature.

understanding of human nature and can be simply summarized as -"in accordance with the nature of people to agree with them," and"put to idENTify the people," rather than using their own vision to look at other people, not to impose their will on others.The first is interested in people of their own, and not interested in you! In other words - a man concerned about the attention you a million times better than their own.Recognizing"People first concern themselves, not you" this is the key to life.

Second, how to skillfully talk with others

When you talk with people Please select the topic they are most interested.They are most interested in the topic what is it? Is their own! These words removed from your dictionary out -"I, myself, my." Use another word, a human language the most powerful word to replace it -"You." Are you interested in the conversation does not matter whether your audience is interested in the conversation.When you talk to people when talking about each other and guide each other to talk about themselves.So you can become a popular conversation partner.

Third, how to make others feel important subtly

one of the most common human feature that is - want to be recognized, wants to be understood.Would you like a duck to water in relationships? Then, try to make others aware of their own importance.Remember, the more you make people feel self important, others return to you the more.

1.Listen to them

2.Praise and complimENT them

3.as often as possible to use their names and photos

4.in answer to their prior , make a little pause

5.use these words -"you" and"your"

6.sure people are waiting to see you

7.concerns everyone in the group

Fourth, how to subtly endorse others

never forget any fool can object to others , and only the wise and great men will agree - especially when the other person make a mistake!"agreed Art" can be summarized as follows 6:

1.Institute of approval and recognition

2.When you agree with someone, please say so

3.When you do not agree, do not tell them, unless a last resort

4.When you make a mistake, we must admit

5.avoid argue

6.correctly handle conflicts

agree art is rooted in -

1.People like people who agree with them.

2.People do not like people who oppose them.

3.People do not like to be opposed.

five, how clever to listen

listen more, you will become more intelligENT, will be more popular, it will become a better conversation partner.Of course, being a good listener, not an easy task, I have a 5-point proposal here for reference:

1.Watch the speaker

2.close to the speaker, concENTrate on listening

3.question

4.Do not interrupt the speaker's topic

5.to use the speaker's person & mdash ; -"You" and"your"

six, and how subtly affect others

encourage people to do things according to your wishes first step is to idENTify the reasons prompted them to do so (that is what they want.) And others say they want to hear, they moved.You simply explain to them, as long as you do ask them to do, they will be able to get what they want."People want to know" approach is: ask for more, observe, listen more, coupled with their tireless efforts.

seven, how to skillfully convince others

when you say something in their favor things, people often wonder if you and you said, this is a manifestation of human instinct.Better way is: Do not directly explained, but the reference of others, let you talk to anyone else, even those who do not at the scene.Therefore, to the mouth to speak through a third party.

eight, how cleverly allow others to make decisions

1.To tell people why to agree with you.Tell people to do as you said they would benefit, rather than your own benefit.

2.Q can only be used"right" to answer the question.However, should be noted that the right to ask the"right" issue.That is, when you ask such a question should nod, and"you" to start your question.

3.So that people in the two"good" in choosing one.This technique is to let them in your two"can" choose one.

4.You expect people to say"yes" and let them know that you expect them to make an affirmative answer

nine, how to mobilize the sENTiments of others clever

1.Remember, any one of the first contacts momENT often determines the tone of the entire communication process.

2.Then, using the second fundamENTal law of human behavior - people always respond to others with a strong group of

Thus, in the beginning, the momENT of contact with your eyes, before you speak, before you break the silence, show your warm smile.People will not realize how much to pay, there is much in return.Do not forget, from now on, show your smile, just like professional actors as models, and said to himself -"Smile!"

ten, how cleverly complimENT

more generous, to praise others! asked to find some people and things worthy of praise, and commend them.

1.To sincerely

2.Praised the act itself, and not commend people

commended must be specific - to be targeted.Happiness Formula - to develop three differENT people every day praised the habit.You may feel that to do so, you how happy he is! When you see someone else do bring happiness, joy and gratitude, you yourself will therefore be happy.

XI, how clever to criticize others

1.Criticism must be in a separate together raised

2.criticized before to give praise or complimENT slightly

3.commENTs on, do not for the people, criticize an act, but do not criticize a person

4.provide the answer

5.a request for cooperation, not command

6.a mistake, a criticism

7.in a friendly way to end criticism

second, thanks to clever people

only gratitude in his heart, is not enough appreciation of others, this should be your gratitude, appreciation of the feelings you are grateful for the people to express.

1.Attitude to faith

2.A clear, naturally express

3.look at you appreciate each other

4.thanks to the other side when the state name

5.try to thank

thirteen, how skillfully to others a good impression

If you want beauty, beauty first up on their own.If you want others to appreciate you, admire you, respect you, you have to feel that you are worthy to receive this honor.Proud of it for your own (but do not own!) As your own, for your career, as proud of your work environmENT; not to your current situation and inadequate and inferior.You are your own - to respect themselves, to be proud of myself.

1.Sincerely

2.To warm

3.should not be overly impatiENT

4.Do not belittle other people by raising their own

5.Do not hit anyone, anything

XIV.how clever speeches

1.know you said the contENTs of the

2.Having said that, to stop

3.speak, please watch the audience

4.talk about some of the audience interested in the topic

5.Do not try to lecture