Ke Yunlu: treatment of depression, the best way to men (Figure)

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world depression, was dark, lonely, sorrow, pain, surrounded by layers of psychological pressure, endured the pain of ordinary people difficult to understand.How to get along with depression, there is both important and difficult one Family.Here are simple ways: First, no non-battle."Everything is not the Heart" is the characteristics of patiENTs with depression, depressed patients when the words and deeds of his family unhappy, unkind, when families and patients should be aware there is no need to distinguish right and wrong, about what happens.Second, dilute Wumingzhihuo.In depression are often the"yin", when faced with a little unhappy, not desirable, it will somehow get angry, family treatment they need is diluted, because the family is sent undetermined origin in patients with the safest the vent.Third, the sharing of useful information.Patients with depression do not intend to be careful along the"fuel" in communication with them to pay attention more to share useful and positive information, rather than going to talk about some bad news and the bad things.Fourth, a positive understanding fault.The poor state of depression, will thus stir up some of misfortune, sudden, some of the fault should not be made, to which family members do not demand perfection.Fifth, humility and patience.Family care is an important pillar of patients out of the depression.

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hell out of the mind

of: Ke Yunlu

role in the collapse of Chapter husband syndrome

seven

the last lecture on Saturday afternoon.

usual, Lvfen always come early that day, the hall full of people sitting, and I have been watchful.Until one minute before lecturing, Lvfen and daughter Angel was rushed in front of the venue, the two look very depressed.

Anzai Lin did not come.

understand everything.Unexpected, but also reasonable.Expected, but also outside of the reasonable.

end of the lecture, Lvfen and handed me her pre-written letter.

Ke Yunlu Teacher:

the night before, I feel that you may give us a phone call, but do not expect to in the day.Because you are so busy, and my heart filled with too many"stories", shoulders so sacred mission.Small Family of our ordinary, how insignificant, but you call us, you come to save our troubled home.

ever since he read your book, I met with relatives, friends, colleagues, could not help but mENTion that you are, with An Zilin's disease, talk to my understanding, advice on all things they do not get too attached.And very much like to get in touch with you.Just met a friend recently told me that your lectures, and I could not believe my ears, I believe this is fate.Not only met with you, you pass the word to our Family, I feel this is God, so that you contacted us and helped our family out of this bitter sea crossing.

your say at the meeting that day you feel sick ─ ─ An Zilin's really no less.I was excited, shocked, after all around you to sign, somehow, could not stop my tears to flow.I think you understand me so deeply.

last letter I told you mENTion An Zilin sick, we harmony of couples, harmonious relations, together with Angel smart, studious, showing great promise, our Family of three, relatives and friends are all commendable, sixteen years the (except he was ill) no matter what our activities are collective action, Moreover, the two of us is a unit to work together, work together to go.He engaged in a difficult drive in the unit maintenance (TV), technical advice and letters, I worked in units engaged in propaganda, and later became editor of the newspaper plant.His help in 1988, I was admitted to a vocational major, learning administration, I am about to graduate in 1991 when he was ill.While I was preparing for the exam, while the hospital with him and some colleagues have said that because of my social status is higher than his, and that he had a sense of inferiority, because in June 1991 that his illness is on, I University graduated, have a title, with her daughter's words, the whole a"Weak of." My day with you and say that he almost did not destroy me, that is all.Because the day from his illness, to lack of progress can not leave me.No matter what his hospital stay, need to accompany me, because he more than a decade been good to me, so I am also a dedicated commitment.Over the past year I have been personal leave, sick leave at home, in the hospital to take care of him.So my appointment dry lifted, laid-off to be optimized by the Propaganda Department of the allocation to be distributed after the impact due to the economic situation at home, and now is assigned to do general management in the workshop.This is temporary.Unit where we annexed by others, also face the problem of redistribution, which is not a factor in his illness.Depression faction units, in the future I do not know where to go.I Ruopi points in the point of a new unit to work on time, take care of him will be less.

back to the night before we talk on the phone, I am excited and Angel.We asked his feelings, he said:"They are not preaching, let me convinced."

next morning I wENT to work in the afternoon about two out of him and Angel, to the Jingshan Park.(Of course according to your intentions, let him make a decision where to go.) Way back from the Jingshan, I think he always remained silent, and asked how he felt, he told Angel in front of the first out (cycling), we behind, while riding his side told me the following words:"Yesterday Ke teacher told me that saw the Angel to see a lot from her, my image, I am sick of the Angel has a great impact of teachers feeling that Angel Ke twenty or so will be the unexpected.I understand, he gave me such a hint, is to shift my attention, but today I feel even more bad.I do not want good, I stick to the teeth now, is to you.I very much hope that my illness get better.This suggests that not only did not shift my attention, but increased the uneasiness in my heart.I do not have the ability to protect her."I said to him:" Angel's Health, is indeed a big issue worthy of attention."

been sick since Anzai Lin, Angel also hospitalized several times, now suspected to be"myocarditis", while suspected,"TB", because of the three most recENT low (platelets, hemoglobin, white blood cell indices are low), suspected"aplastic anemia", are not confirmed, always suspect.

the one hand, her husband face a nervous disorder, on the one hand and the face of a smart and sick daughter, you say I can not Anxiety? But how had wasted years of training period, in particular, get from your book inspired, I believe I will not collapse the.Besides, I can not collapse, because they need me.

is worth noting that: every time I find him a new doctor, with the first day he was very, very trusted, the next day quasi-negative, but later denied it, he always complained that I do not care, do not grasp to his treatmENT.Ke teacher, today he comes or not I can not guarantee something.Although he was promised you, he always go back later.The past two years, he is this way, torture yourself, but also tortured me.He began a self-blame, since the attitude of the crime, that drag me and my daughter, but then, he always said that I do not understand him, whether he, and often with the threat of tone, said:"You do not put my cure, you will be unlucky life."The Angel also brought into it.

I would not care.Him to torture me, to his ten years of my caring, to the time, morally I would not damn it away from him.But emotionally, he let me and sorry for him, and frustration that he, almost no kind of husband and wife relationship.Disease, he is no longer like her husband, I do not like a wife.But boy, Angel is such a good child, for children, I can eat anything hard, just do not let the suffering of more then come to the big kids.This year has been hard enough for a child.Small age, but also to help me come up with ideas, and gave my father for psychological counseling, and sometimes the child's words than I would make him easy to accept.I say more, fearing that he caught in the"patiENT role" too, I say little, and he said I do not care about him.Angel said: My father how a changed man?

Ke teacher, you must help Angel one, save the child.

you give Angel a question for the two paintings, she said, She did not go south, she wanted to capture the feeling, you can paint.

waiting for your call, hope you tell the truth.

Angel's mother Lvfen

1993 年 2 月 6 日

6 March

2 lecture, because it is the final say, after a lot of friends around him I would like to exchange.Originally, I would like to set aside time with Lvfen, Angel talk, they indeed have been out in the crowd anxiously waited.But I can not get away, the time and very limited.

I wENT outside and hugged by people, they are also pushing bicycles to the mother and daughter followed in silence.It gradually spread out, the driver had started the car, I noticed a stand on the side of the Lvfen and Angel, the suffering of life has been deeply engraved in her mother's face, looks to become a part of; nestling in her mother's daughter looked around so soft, her look has been greatly premature at age children.Both dream-like glow, but also under the unbearable in the fight against the fear.Camel, she just looked at me for help, do not say anything.

I know, Angel is now also under the control of neurosis.An Zilin sick since been hospitalized several times Angel, now suspected to be"myocarditis", while suspected"TB", in fact, the reaction is neurotic.Including her most recENT low for the three (platelet, hemoglobin, low white blood cell indices) and are suspected of"aplastic anemia", I do not believe what is purely physical disease.I think that most of the so-called"real diseases" are also through psychological mechanisms to"sickness benefit" rules create.

Angel

this girl, if we are surrounded by this pathological Family environmENT a year or two, it will truly be a life-long sick people.

I walked over to the Angel said: Do not worry, uncle will contact with you, give your father call again.

should be said, Anzai Lin did not do as he promised to attend the lecture, I have some shocking.In particular, I did not think he would those of his daughter and my wife told Lvfen predict the future.

treatmENT will not be easy.I saw the face of stubborn subconscious An Zilin.

eight

1993 年 2 月 7 at noon, and An Zilin, a second call.

Author: how did you come yesterday? I am very disappointed.

An Zilin: Yesterday feel bad, Shuangda like, covered with dull, a little nausea.Had intended to go, then lying in bed to rest for a while, I do not know how to sleep.

Author: This is a psychological reaction.According to your loved one speak, in this two-year course of treatmENT, you also have a similar psychological logic.Often start treatment, the doctor's judgments, treatment, adopt a more convincing and with the attitude, then they may deny this.This is also a regular performance anxiety.

Anzai Lin: I'm the first symptoms appeared each time the body, then is the psychological and emotional reactions.

Author: the emergence of physical symptoms, causing sENTiment.However, in the body before disease is the work of the subconscious.Direct result of unconscious bad mood, it creates anxiety, which is the first way.Unconscious body before causing disease, and (also at the same time) and then raises (or strengthen) a bad mood, it creates anxiety, which is the second more subtle, more powerful way.

the emergence of anxiety disorders, there are many environmENTal, life reasons.Yesterday you did not come, I not only expected, but also unexpected.The so-called surprise, that your anxiety response than I would have also stubborn few.If that is to be expected, that your performance yesterday reflected the common law of anxiety disorders.

engage in the arts as a person, I'm a very good impression, I trust you.

day we talked, I believe you have a loving, responsible, including your relationship with the Family's sense of justice.We had got a positive result of both resonance.Before this, I analyze you, that you will get better, you believe that this is a window on the one hand paper, a barrel on the break, on the other hand always worried about whether it will repeat? Do feel there are difficulties.

At this time, I talked about your love, righteousness, goodness of your heart, I noticed that you never do the reverse of the explanation.This makes me very happy and felt this is a turning point.

Anzai Lin: Yes, my anxiety is often heavy twilight morning light.Good evening, and repeated in the morning.Body symptoms appeared, emotional and bad.

Author: Why is that? This situation has a lot of anxiety disorder, many doctors are not good at analyzing this.In my research, found it to be a rule.Said to be very simple.

morning, what it means for a person? As he passed a night of rest after the morning, he must face a new beginning.He must face the social, life, work, a variety of tasks required to face their own, he must ENTer their role should be played.And at night, end of the day, no matter how the day can rest during the day can all put aside the burden.This is the usual logic.Do not say one anxiety disorder, a neurological disease, is to ordinary people can often experience this.

I often have this experience.

example, work has been very nervous this time, often the work of the morning will feel pressure, then in the evening, after all is easy.This is a regular thing.

I have analyzed, you bear the burden of anxiety disorders are mainly in the life of your role.It should be said, your whole life environmENTal background, and you want to face their own responsibilities, you are in the very real work environment is not ideal.Of these, you have told me about love.This environment is not ideal and you are in art and life in the high target has a great conflict.You can not escape.

these practical problems are solved, once your disease is cured, it is necessary to go to work, it is necessary painting to do her husband to do his father, you have to take you all in the social and Family responsibility, but you do not willing to take, it can not afford.

This is the most basic reality.

Anzai Lin: I was very ill for a long time, and do not consider their own unconscious is not unconscious, and mainly on account of his own body disease, attENTion focused on here.Physical symptoms often appeared, mood deterioration.Become a habit.How to break this habit?

example, think of a good self-suggestion, for example, an effective drug to eat, or to a friend the morning, transfer the attENTion that he had received.In short, how there is one thing stronger than the subconscious, that I forget my disease.

Author: You just right.How to have a subconscious thing to forget about his illness forced the idea to discuss with your wife.The way you feel is a very simple, very simple, but effective way.

subconscious thing, sometimes you even aware of it on his way.To overcome the intellectual, very much like to overcome, emotional and involuntary, physical symptoms are involuntary.You are a good introspective person, willing to analyze their own, not to avoid analysis of their own, unlike some patiENTs, after falling ill do not speak logic.This is beneficial aspects.

Our approach is two, one is to analyze the clear, but one is to find a conveniENT way to adjust their own.For example, in the morning, in a vicious emotional state easily, as compared refreshing to find a thing, do some happy arrangement.This will help you adjust.Of course, this requires the cooperation environment.Specific to you, that Family tie.

you just said, to find some authority, that provide support in the psychological language, use it to carry out psychological suggestion, after more than think about it every morning.This idea is very clever, very realistic.I also help you think about it.These can be written in a good banner on the wall.You can write a few more.I believe it would have suggested you have a good effect.You work in painting, will be very vulnerable to these verbal cues.

I have let your daughter draw two pictures, painted the south at noon the sun, painting the clear morning sky.It is also adjusting to her.South, at noon, the sun, this is masculine; morning, sunny, the sky is masculine.This is her inward psychological adjustmENT.Yesterday, her lectures, and I told her: after the event, and thought to be more than the sword, gymnastics, dance, and the shape on the outside of things, to balance her shy temperament.Thus, within the artistic temperament can be manifested in the physical and mental Health and access to the adjustment.The results will be better.

disease you can not be too hasty, to step by step.Your illness, saying that complicated, it seems very heavy, difficult to treat, in fact, just a process.You are not much better than last year, it? Although your self-analysis every time, every time the self-suggestion, if not solve the problem overnight, but in practice over time to solve the problem.

This is the result.Should affirm.

And I think you are basically in the mind can grasp their own.You said you did not faint again collapsed in the street too, which shows the limits of the subconscious in large or able to grasp is maintained on the.Would you like to be good at self-analysis, in general, for the psychological treatmENT is no better with the attitude.This is a very sober and rational attitude.This is a disease no matter how hard you will eventually be the last degree of assurance.

you are very sensitive to their very high call upon the mENTal capacity of the so-called psychological strategies in general will be felt.Therefore, I am your attitude is: honest, what say what.

I have talked about concerns for your daughter.I say is true, but does not rule out such an idea, in order to enable you to pick ourselves up, to boost up your love and sense of responsibility, the problem may be would put emphasis on some.Because the same thing, there is a possibility there will be that possibility.The most serious problem I say, is to make you awake, take heart.Maybe things are not as serious.On that day, I also worry that once I tell the truth, you feel, especially heavy burden, especially difficult to bear, and instead of an emotional, psychological negative fluctuations.You do not have to talk that day, confirmed my fears.

does not matter.Have a process.Real analysis will evENTually lead to positive results.

things are gradually transformed, and do not let the subconscious fear.You particularly want to end their currENT condition, the subjective desire is clear, your analysis is very clear that these are a good guarantee.Of course, the subconscious mind, as not thinking about logic.You feel confident enough.This is normal.

You might think that these words are a hint of the language.To think so, but I want to tell you a true feeling for your illness, I worry Ye Hao, Ye Hao you worry, you worry love, it is all just subjective factors favorable, but also a lot of objective conditions, they do not have blindly optimistic, do not blindly pessimistic, in the course of treatmENT will be a miracle.Of course, the so-called miracles, is relatively clear the stage symptoms disappear, hey, from the