Experts read:"independence generation" of right and wrong

experts read:"independence generation" of right and wrong

; Guangdong Science and Technology News, Guo Li Ziwei correspondENT Han Xue-Mei

30 years ago, China began to implemENT the Family planning policy, a child born then known as the" independence generation", the first generation of only children.Now, the first sub-group of daughter ( 80 after) has ENTered its peak into the peak period of marriage and childbearing, their children --- about 2000 Children born after ( age 3 to 12 years old ) , known as the"independence second generation." And the currENT social concern"independence generation", as"independence generation" become the focus of comment, these comments in more of a disclosure of"independence generation" of the problem, which" independence generation"born to be labeled a special ID tag.

Question One: grandparENTs raising - not conducive to the"independence generation" Healthy personality development

According to the Chinese women's magazine for the"double child marriage" survey shows that more than 71.9% the"independence generation" by the grandparENTs or the grandparents custody of their parents care only 15.8% , there 12.3% raised by the whole Family, but the task is to support the"independence generation" of parENTs based.

Sanjiu Brain Hospital, Guangdong Branch Zhang delayed director of psychological and behavioral analysis that, due to"inter-generational pro", the elderly more than the child's physical care training and education, leading to the" independence generation"form a fragile, overbearing, selfish and other personality.AttachmENT to parents and children is born with a lack of communication if the parties live together, children may worry that Mom and Dad"is not me, not like me." As a result, children feel stress, fear, the long run will be insecure.Fuzzy gratitude to their parents, can not establish the intimate relationship between parents, which is easy to loneliness, feelings of vulnerability such as autism, autism, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder and other mental disorders of children incentives.He suggested that young couples live with their children as much as possible, if you can not personally take care, nourishing food for the child psychology class.

problems II: too early education - the"independence generation" right to Health is"invisible denied"

China Women's Federation of 1054 name survey of parENTs of children, when asked"in the Family education, which of the following aspects of your efforts in the most?"When, 30 years old and under parENTal choice" intellectual development and knowledge of education"to 78.1 %, higher than the" physical training"( 64.1% ) and"moral character and a man's education" ( 54.7% ), and higher than the 31 parENTs 23.2 years and over percENTage points.The survey also showed that 88.6 % of children before school parENTs teach children the knowledge of arithmetic, there 28.2 % let the children learn a foreign language, 20.3 % let the children learn the primary school curriculum; participate in the above three types of learning children's sleep time was significantly less than the children did not participate in such learning.

in the one-child Family education, generations ago on the child's daily life, learning, thinking and behavioral activity and so there are too many concerns and worries too much, too many other over-the tendency of the guidance on the issue, Zhang delay that the"independence generation" parENTs early in life for their children for the design and location, expect their children in accordance with the their plan on track, it will be to the child sleep, play time is reduced, limiting the expense of social interaction, focus only on material satisfaction and knowledge to educate their children while ignoring the emotional and psychological upbringing, is apt to cause the child psychological resistance, in children from their parents can not afford this, the expectations of grandparents when the pressure is bound to physical or mental illness forms.

question three: lonely -"independence generation" needs more EQ education

It 2009 in a for 6000 more than one child survey, 61.3 % of people think that the second generation is more lonely only child, happiness and sadness is difficult to share with others.Big people's"love" is usually limited to Health and aspects of life and psychological aspects are lacking.No brothers or sisters to accompany them, needed to be alone to face around a huge and massive things, endure in silence.

a 80 after the young mother said that her children high IQ, great capacity for new things, but emotional intelligence is very low, selfish, never given to other children to play with toys, not with people, and sometimes even suspect their child has mild autism.In this regard, she said, do not know how to implemENT the missing children EQ education.Zhang delay that occurs online now"sign playmates for children", organize my child to play the weekend, party, or even"fight the weekend raising" and education for the children's emotional intelligence is very beneficial."Independence generation" grew up in"the age of solitude," they not only failed to brotherhood, and even no more uncle aunt, uncle, uncle, Family understanding of the relationship of"natural missing", the family has at least 6 were a man love his own, which are easy to make them form a spoiled, survival is poor, dependENT and other illnesses.

in how the"independence generation" to the issue of education, emotional intelligence, Zhang Yan Chi said that the growth process of children and parENTs most in need of affection for one to one exchange, so listen to them tell their parents, and parents to do with reading and games, which are conducive to their mental Health.Secondly, the spirit of teamwork among children should be the"independence generation" child-care focus.Let the children take part in group activities of children, let the children learn to share, learn teamwork, which in the future"independence generation" into campus life, are very beneficial integration into the community.

【to & ldquo ; independence generation"Advice for parENTs

advises: can not guarantee time to spend with their children, pay attENTion to the quality and the kids.

presENT, the"independence generation" of parents faced with tremendous pressure, it is difficult to take care of balance children and work, since not guarantee time to spend with their children, it should pay more attention to the quality and the kids.Parental influence on children, parents and kids with time is not as simple proportional, more importantly, the quality of live.If parents and child-care attitude towards work and make them feel all warm and happy, then the child can also spread to such sentiments, even an hour a day together.Conversely, if the"independence generation" of a party allied to raise children, and they hold a"This is not the life I want" attitude, even spend the day with the child, it is difficult to make a child feel happy.

parENTal education as early as possible, courage to provoke parental responsibility.

"independence generation" in the psychological and not fully mature, and still do not understand how to take care of others

lack the experience to take care of younger siblings, so when children come true, they seem at a loss , the important task of raising children naturally put threw the parENTs.Yen-Chi suggested that the"independence generation" should be accepted when the Family planning early childcare education to mature state of mind to face the personal role change.

Recommendation II: should focus on"independence generation" of early education, mENTal Health

community is not intended to give the"independence generation" label or look for flaws, no intENTion to A simple classification of them, but they have no intention on the qualitative character.But the"independence generation" born in this particular social environment, will inevitably suffer from this kind of comments, they certainly are more vulnerable to mental Health objective social environment.Yen-Chi said,"independence generation" parents should pay more attention to their children's early mental health education, more emphasis on the"independence generation" growing up in the psychological, emotional changes observed.If your child has not concentrate, affecting learning; can not get along with peers, hyperactivity, autism and other symptoms should be turned to a psychiatrist; or in infancy tells Doctor understand infants, children grow up healthy psychological knowledge.